Hi Bugs. I'll give you an old cliche' that I have found to be true by personal experience: If he is good to his mother, he will be good to his wife. My husband has always treated his mother as if she was stupid, ignored her, or used mind games to manipulate her. Up until she became addicted to prescription pain killers and "nerve pills", she was not stupid, just lonely and wanted to be included in her children's lives. Well, for 10 1/2 years, he treated me the same way. It started out gradually, but soon it was to the point I was ready to leave him. What he did to my self-esteem, making me doubt my own intelligence and common sense, is something I may never heal from.

Good luck to you hon!