I do understand your frustration over getting a valid diagnosis, i still am fighting mine...I am unable to walk, have poor muscle control widespread throughout my whole body including breathing and swallowing at times and am double incontinent yet still have no 'physical' diagnosis, everything is put down to mental health eventhough my m/h team say there is nothing wrong with my m/h! so i do understand how no dx can affect what help you get.

you do have the right to talk to your m/h nurses superior and request a different one treat you. i did that with a really bad social worker, because it is m/h you have to be able to work with your team on an equal if no superior level else there is a risk of you becoming more stressed. anxious or depressed, so they tend to respond quickly to the phrase 'i do not feel i can work with this person'

if you feel ready to resume work then tht is a different matter, go for it.

Having a child under 5 should mean that the government can not legally force you into working. i would check this out if i were you, i am pretty sure they don't expect mums of under 7's to go back to work if they choose to be a house parent as up until that age it is seen that children still need a great deal of attention and stability from a parent.

I will say that although i am expert in Direct Payments, DLA, PIP etc. that i am not so great on knowledge around other benefits and having children.