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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
I have been on two restaurant dates with a guy who sounds like a good prospect. I am not attracted, but it is OK - I respect him a lot and I am not physically repulsed and that is enough for me. I am leaving for Christmas and will email him when I am back, and then what? What do people do on subsequent dates - activities together, or what? What is the expected progression on, say, dates 3 - 5, if there are certain rules in this area?
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First, I am not sure how you'll take this but are you sure you want to consider continuing to date someone that's not attractive to you? I mean to be honest, that's one very important factor in an on-going romantic relationship. Maybe you mean he's attractive to you just not in a physical way? Which still leaves a lot to be desired, how would you be intimate with someone long term that doesn't "turn you on" physically? I know this wasn't the point of your post but I just wanted to say that because it sounds like you're settling for something and there are plenty of fish out there still, many of which you could be attracted to, get along with and have fun all at the same time. Just something to think about
It's kind of a tough question in that it depends on the people, for what they do in subsequent dates. I think it will come in time, as you get to know someone you'll find common ground and things to enjoy together. I think in the beginning though, the typical dinner, movie and such is ok for the first few dates. I'm sure you'll come up with things as time goes on and you continue to date though. I wouldn't think too hard on it, it's not like anything written in stone as to what is right or wrong in dating. Kind of gotta go with what's ok with the both of you.
I don't know if I've helped, but I hope so.