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Old Dec 21, 2012, 04:59 PM
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When we first started dating three years ago, I did ask him about why he seemed to not be that sexual. He said he'd always been that way but that, in addition, he kind of turned it off when he and his ex-wife were having problems. I think she refused him pretty frequently even before their problems since she was in medical school for much of their relationship. He's not a very romantic guy, and I can't imagine that he'd take time out to work on intimacy...it just doesn't seem to be very important to him...even though we rarely have sex, this doesn't seem to be a problem for him....I'm getting sick of being the one to bring it up...why bother if he doesn't care? He has a problem with emotional intimacy in general, and I sometimes don't know how to connect with him. We're pretty sure has adult ADD, and he can be very scattered and all over the place. He's also not that good with empathy. Strange thing is...he loves animals...he's never cried during a fight, even when we've talked about splitting up but, when he thinks about the dog getting older and dying, he bawls like a baby. I don't know how to reach him and I don't know that my ego can take always being the one to put myself out there sexually....I don't mean to sound like I'm giving up....I want to try but I just can't do it alone. I love him because he's sweet and patient...he listens and is up for trying almost anything (food, adventures, etc.)...but, I just wonder if he really doesn't consider me as a girlfriend...but, more of a best friend. He's not a particularly passionate person...unless it's about soccer or cars....I sure don't feel like he's very passionate about me these days.