The other thing that is probably affecting our sex life is that I've been so involved with helping him with his business problems that I think he almost sees me as part of the business. However, when I try to step back, I worry that things will get worse. At this point, I'm the one pushing him to seek professional advice (lawyers, accountants, etc.) and trying to brain storm over solutions. His business partner lives overseas and has pretty much checked out of the situation...leaving him completely alone with it.