I'd like to share this because I think it fits in with your topic. I work alongside a woman who hates. She hates me something fierce. She thinks I have it all -- everything that she wants and should have and that I don't deserve what I have and had in life. I feel sorry for her. But annoyed, too. She snaps at me, snarls at me, barks at me, talks down to me as if I am stupid, and takes advantage of me at work.I can hear her on the phone snarling at someone, so I know I am not her only target.

I believe she feels justified in what she is doing (she's indicated she thinks it is okay to take 'it' out on people at work when she is 'in a bad mood') and that what she is doing is a 'stress reliever for herself'. She's somehow entitled to treat other people like dirt because she's angry at the world because the world hasn't given her what she wants and thinks she deserves.

I came out of a background where I didn't even think I deserved to live and breathe. I don't have much by American standards but I feel like I have plenty and I'm happy with what I have. I'd rather be a cheerleader than a scorekeeper.

My coworker talks to me like I am stupid but I'm not stupid. I've mainly held my tongue because I've thought she needed to get her top dog on and I knew it didn't change my accomplishments, gifts, possessions, relationships. But I have re-thought that. Her rage only fuels her rage. Her disrespect of me only grows deeper and meaner. And I am seriously not the cause of her problems which go all the way back to her youth, but have continued into the present day because of choices she continues to make. At some point maybe she will realize she has beaten that dead horse into a powder and it still hasn't come back to life.

She doesn't know it yet, but she's mistreated me for the last time. I am going to redirect the course of her raging river of hate away from me.

What I have written here may not apply to you at all, but maybe it will strike a chord with someone drawn to your thread.