<font color="blue">Hello Hillbunny

Life can be such a challenge, can't it? My youngster pops up at some interesting times, and several times at work which didn't work out too well. I've been told that when someone surfaces, it's because they are looking to be heard, they have something that is bothering them and need a way to express it.

I have discovered, and it's not easy to do by any means, that finding a way for them to express themselves, asking them the general questions "what are you afraid of" helps in settling down the chaos.

I have several journals that I use for such a purpose and a little pencil bag with markers, crayons, and a grown up / sensible pen that I use when the chaotic popping up starts. I find it helpful but everyone is different and at different stages of therapy and understanding.

Sometimes, no matter what I do, I have no control over anything and no memory of what happens - I guess it's just the stupid part of DID. Very frustrating and confusing and hurtful and frustrating and maddening and UGH!!!!!!

Hugs,
Anne </font>