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Originally Posted by Chopin99
This idea is really great IMO, but you don't know my T. T is not really interested in my authentic emotional self. She is actually a disciple of the "fake it until you make it" theorem. What she tells me the most is: "feelings aren't facts". She says I've always lived by my emotions and that is not healthy because "feelings aren't facts".
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Over the years, I've found that therapy really has to be a balance of authenticity and picking up the skills to "fake it until you make it". Sometimes my therapy is all about faking it.
I have a good job, I have good relationships, I have a lot to live in and for. I want to keep that - regardless of what is going on in my head. Therapy helps me to do that.
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Originally Posted by Chopin99
She is a very practical sort and she has not been very interested in my feelings much, particularly towards her. Unless they are negative. Then she blows up and calls my actions "borderline". Even though she doesn't think I have BPD.
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This, this I would not appreciate at all.
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Originally Posted by Chopin99
I recognize this T relationship is probably not the healthiest; however, the pros have outweighed the cons so far. I've done quite a bit of changing and healing in the past 20 months. Who I am this Christmas is a stronger and more authentic (not hiding who I am) version of me who recognizes she is a person of worth and value. If not for T, I wouldn't be in this place.
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Yep. Sounds like any relationship. I think Nightsky called it "tolerating each other's crazy".