I am sorry for what took place last night..... for I fell asleep thinking about your situation for I have lived through its h*ll and I still have problems from what he did.... to be honest I DO NOT think that I will ever be able to fully trust him again, and now I hate even being out in public with him or seeing a movie with him - for there are beauties to be seen and lusted at from all directions.
While I am feeling terrible for what you and your marriage is now having to deal with - I am feeling more for you wife.... for I was once in her place and it sucks more than I could ever explain. She will never be the same again, nor will her view of her self as a woman, for she was not enough to keep your love pure and safe - for just the two of you.

Please by all means seek the counseling you need and DO NT try to go at this along, for you will never make it out alive and with your family if you do.... you need professional help to get you thru the wounds that drew you to these addictions in the first place - your drug of choice for not wanting to feel any more.

Please know that I am here for YOU and that I will try to help as I can and I will back off as I need, if my feelings get upset from the woman's side of this sickness and from my own experience with it all.

I truly do wish to see your marriage saved and the love restored..... I will get a list together of some books that greatly helped my husband and myself to heal and send them to you - please look into buying them for both you and your wife to read. Good Bless +

LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

P.S.
Here are a few links to some of my post on here that might help you better understand how your wife is feeling right now and WHY.... good luck.

http://forums.psychcentral.com/showf...t=1&PHPSESSID=

http://forums.psychcentral.com/showf...t=1&PHPSESSID=

http://forums.psychcentral.com/showf...t=1&PHPSESSID=