I'm sorry you have had this dreadful experience ...
It does seem to pass down from one generation to the next until one of us decides it stops here and now. With that being said not everyone who is abused becomes an abuser, yet most who do abuse were also abused themselves. Nevertheless, it isn't an excuse because most of us know right from wrong and we can decide whether we want to become it or not.
Did any of that make any sense?
Again,

... Sorry you had that happen to you.

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Pfrog!