Thank you for your answers! The doctor wants to do the counselling or marriage counselling himself (I suspect because he makes more money that way). Again, my husband has shown no signs of improvement from the past year so this isn't helping the situation. He views this doctor as a longtime close "friend".

IceCreamKid, I agree that it probably is transferance of his anxieties/work/ financial issues in the form of how he speaks with me. He's always been a workaholic. You're right, there has been no progress or treatment plan in the past year.