That is a bummer. You have gone thru a lot this past year to even be able to keep this job, and it seems like your family takes that for granted, as if it were easy or not important, by just outvoting you. You ha d a conflict, a genuine family versus work conflict. The last year that I was at my job, my boss told HIS boss to shove it, he was taking his little daughter trick or treating. They made him pay. But you are taking all your anger out on yourself, which is an excellent lesson for us PC'ers, but still something we hate to see. Sometimes you can't be in two places at the same time. You have to make a hard decision. Sometimes it's two things you really want. Maturity is learning to live with your decision. It sux tho.