Please forgive your husband, Rhapsody. If he's really changed, that is. I can tell you that this sickness is not necessarily a rejection of you - it's more like an outside force that pulled him away from you. Of course he's responsible for his actions, but if he's behaving well toward you, coming to bed at night, do your best to give him the benefit of the doubt. For men, looking at and desiring women is just an ordinary part of being heterosexual. But spending obsessive amounts of time on it, arranging meetings, paying for sex, etc. is NOT. If he's not doing those things any more, forgive him all the way if you can. He will benefit and be stronger as a result. It's what I'm hoping for if my wife gives me the chance to change and be a better husband.