Every time that we go away, he definitely is much more in the mood. But, due to his financial concerns, it's been hard to take the time. I could more than afford to pay for both of us to get away, but he feels uncomfortable enough that I've already lent him a small amount of money. I don't in any want to emasculate him....I always ask him to help me fix stuff around the house since I'm not handy at all and he can fix just about anything. So, I'm in-between a rock and a hard spot...the things that might help lessen the pressure (vacation, loan, etc.) might just make him feel guilty over taking too much from me....ironically enough...for the first time in about two months he initiated just this morning....don't know what it was, but maybe the fact that I just decided to stop being shy and just got out of shower and "forgot" to put a robe on! I could well be over-thinking things...maybe I've got some of my own work to do in the mojo department.