((Foreign Soul)),

I sounds like you are not sure how to not be a victim anymore. You went a while being a victim and it hurt you deeply, so it is normal any relationship would worry you. It sounds like this man is a nice one and really cares about you. Well, you have to make up your mind to take a chance as we can never be totally certain of anyone.
You have to make sure that you are not "projecting" bad things for your future, which happens once anyone has been abused or tramatized like you have.

Have you met this new partner's family? Watched how they interact with him and each other? That is always a big help, because you will get to see what he knows, has seen as an example in his past.

Open Eyes