Thank you deeply Open Eyes! You hit the nail on the head. I try and keep the peace and end up the scape goat that is toxic mentally and physically. It does not help that my wife has Borderline traits and discussions how ever plain and non confrontational can become all or nothing ones. I used to live my life one foot out the door but now I give too much power and take too much crap. I don't know which is worse. At least when I had a foot out the door I had a plan B and idle threats to leave did not devastate me. Maybe it's because I am still healing from a bad episode and not working for the first time in 10 years but that's no excuse to be treated as a doormat.

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