Yeah I spent a couple of years in therapy trying to answer the question, exactly what happened or didn't happen, or was supposed to happen? I went to therapy for years before this, where the therapist assumed I knew about stuff like attachment. Or for instance, a girl friend told me I didn't seem like first generation American, she would have assumed my parents were educated. But it was just skin-deep.

Now you have me curious! About the toilet training, I mean. But if the last kid was born 3 years after the

first, yeah that's fIne for the first, but it does seem to make things tough for the middle kid. Then again, I have heard of the 2nd kid learning stuff faster because they are imitating the oldest who is so close in age. Anyway, I hope you get better answers than I ever did. My mother remembers everything about my older brother and nothing about me.

Btw I do have memories about my toilet training. I remember my mother yelling at me for using too much T.P. the first time she let me do it myself (I also remember having to call her and wait for her) and I remember that after she started working, I stopped going to the bathroom. So...