Are you able to achieve the alone time that you need and do you find peace alone or does being alone simply keep you from having to deal with stuff? If there's peace as a result and a sense of wellness then being alone is a good thing, I'd think. But if the torment continues alone or out and about that's perhaps a different thing and worth digging into.

I do use being alone as avoidance for feeling overwhelmed. The pressure of the holidays is a tough time even tho I enjoy the merriment. The social obligations get to me quickly and I start finding excuses to be "unavailable". But I find peace at home either alone or with my kids. When my husband invites people over, I get annoyed. Space Invaders!!! I handle it ok, but would rather not open my doors even tho I love my friends very much. Are holidays especially hard for you, too?