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I don't have ADD---But I wanted to offer perhaps some support with a hug and maybe some words.
It sounds like you have a lot on your plate

two kids and being a Mom is a job that I can't imagine.
The day is not over, and yes while it is important to celebrate traditions, perhaps taking one thing at a time some times is the best thing.
Keeping a clean house I have issues with, with my S/O and I-- I am finding it is something I have to incorporate into my every day life with small things, or it all piles up.
Things may not go exactly how we want, or "how they should", but things usually work out, some how, some way.....

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I hope your kids and you have a wonderful holiday this year, I hope things start to look up today, and remember-- the most important thing is all of you together
Perhaps take this year as a tool-- things to improve on for next year
It is not a failure if you have tried and learned from it all

Welcome to PC and happy holidays