@yellowted:
Quote:
|
your parents are trying to trivialise what is really important to you instead of growing a back bone and helping you work through your anger.
|
Exactly, thank you for reminding me of what parents are actually there for. They complained that I wouldn't talk about my private life, that I am too secretive and have always been withdrawn and inapproachable. Probably just the reaction of someone who fears being judged rather than understood.
Quote:
|
when as parents it is their job to support you unconditionally.
|
That's what I told him too. He said he never wanted to or could be stepfather because my mother never let him "teach" us, for example telling me that I should wear decent clothes or comb my hair. I now see that he (and also my mother) is unable to be an understanding parent. According to him, the younger person needs someone to tell him/her what is right and then simply follows the rules. That's what he thinks parents are there for. My mother tries to understand but cannot as she hasn't grown up yet and always refused to take over responsibility. That's why she is crying instead of clearly positioning herself in a conflict.
Quote:
|
if you want to stick with them and let bygones be just that or if some time apart will bring you more happiness
|
At the moment I absolutely do not want to play the "harmony game" any longer. I have to rediscover my feelings and then remain faithful to them.
Thank you for your support! :-)