I agree with turquoisesea and I would not let your husband get away with the no answer, smarmy smile, either!

I'm glad you all are starting therapy but I'd let your husband know how disappointed in him you are and I'd work on your own self-esteem to see that he is the one that is in the hot seat, not you. You don't have to do anything, it is he who has the problem of having broken your trust. I know you love him, but do you really like him, want to spend the rest of your life with such a man?

If he has to feel passion; that's not love, doesn't sound like he knows what love is. He wants attention like a little boy and sex like a teen; he sure isn't acting older! I would not have much respect for such a man and would not want to remain with him.