Thank you for taking the time to write back. It's clear that the relationship needs work but my attempts at discussions end up in "I'm depressed and haven't felt anything for an entire year". When I respond "well, some feelings were obviously not dead, they just weren't flowing my way", he tells me I'm an inquisitor and that he doesn't have answers, but that he hopes the counselor will point the way towards rekindeling the fire - so in other words, I'm ready to work with you on this but I don't know myself and I don't know why I act the way I am. Should I wait another week for the appointment or should I keep asking him questions - they don't seem to lead anywhere