So helpful Open Eyes. Thank you. Really. I'm scared and not sure he wants to work on this because for him he thinks everything is fine. At least I think he does. He is as avoidant of intimacy as I am and for no obivious reason. I'm scared to bring this up with him because of his reaction and that makes me feel too vulnerable to have him poo poo something. I do understand so many others go through this as well but it only seems like me!! Ha.
Hope you continue to see some progress with your h too. I have been standing up for myself in disagreements lately and that has been a good thing. He likes a good healthy argument/discusssion....... sometimes I do too except when only he can be right.
It's the intimacy thing that is most disturbing because that is what we need and yet it is close but so far also.