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Originally Posted by krisakira
I disagree with you about how Facebook works. When you put something public on Facebook you are opening yourself up to comments, either agreeing or disagreeing.
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This is true... It's also true that everyone will react differently, and may not want opposing viewpoints... Sometimes, it's just nice to get thoughts/beliefs out of ones head and into the world. It can be liberating. It can be validating hearing from like minded people rather than ones with opposing viewpoints.
In regards to you disagreeing with how facebook works... There are many who will agree with you, and there are many that will agree with me. Who's right?? Neither side..
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I didn't try to argue with her, I simply stated that without god I still have much value in life and in her and that I love her. That is nothing negative at all.
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Agree... See above
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I am having trouble figuring out why I believe she's an enemy when I don't want to feel this way. I want to be close to her again and I don't know how to shake the feeling.
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I think you need to look at rational (fact) vs. emotional thinking..
the fact is she accepts you on many different levels... this situation is one area where it appears there is disagreement.
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I am seeking advice on how to forgive for stupid things so I can get past this and have my aunt back.
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I think you need to have a conversation.. A good place to start is using dbt and Dear Man as a guideline on how to express how you feel.. It can be found here...
http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/ie_handout_8.html. Dear Man is an acronym. If it were me I'd use D, E, and N, in fact that's really all that would be applicable....
DESCRIBE
Describe the situation when necessary - sometimes it isn't stick to the facts and no judgmental statements
EXPRESS
Express feelings/opinions about the situation clearly.
describe how you feel or what you believe about the situation.
don't expect the other person to read your mind or know how you feel give a brief reason for making your request.
NEGOTIATE
Be willing to give to get
Offer and ask for alternate solutions
Reduce your request
My idea of Negotiate here would be you asking her if she can understand your side of the issue. Be prepared you may not get a response which you don't like.. Then the ball would be back in your court... DBT approach would be asking yourself how much you value this relationship?? I assume that you value it a lot.. in that case do opposite actions of what you want to do.
Again,,, look at all the good which are fact related vs. 1 issue of disagreement which is based on opinions.