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I am having trouble figuring out why I believe she's an enemy when I don't want to feel this way. I want to be close to her again and I don't know how to shake the feeling. I am seeking advice on how to forgive for stupid things so I can get past this and have my aunt back.
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This a most thoughtful passage.
BPD can create a tendency to alternate between idealizing someone and thinking the worst of them. Do you have a therapist or someone to talk to about these feelings with?
If not, one idea is to go out of your way to both think and act opposite to unwelcome feelings. Here, you might go out of your way to be extra kind and attentive to your aunt.
Here are some relevant links, you could Google for more:
http://www.my-borderline-personality...te-action.html
http://blogs.psychcentral.com/dbt/20...lation-skills/