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I wouldn't exactly say that I'm 'trapped' but the feelings I have about this situation make me feel that way. How exactly do you cope with someone you connect with SOOOO well, but can't tell the truth or do right by you to save his life ?!?! Seriously if anyone has an answer type it in.
Here's a little background:
He's 38, 3 children between ages 5-9 under his custody, 1 teenager out of state, youngest children 1 girl 1boy living with their mothers
Me I'm 23, no children at all
Little more background:
This is our SECOND time trying to make it work out between us. The first time I stepped in and handled the housework, handled all 3 kids, etc...Why it ended??? He was lying to me AND his youngest daughter's mother with the intent to deal with both of us at the same time. Long story short I went about handling that like a mature adult and bring the situation to light and make some changes. In other words, we BOTH know what you're doing, we BOTH obviously want to be with you so you need to make a decision. Decision made??? It was made by me because she couldn't resist making it a situation between me and her when HE was the one lying. After a scuffle I left because I will NEVER fight over a man.
OK fast forward about 6 months, after CONSTANT requests, suggestions and so on of talking, going to have dinner I gave in and heard what he had to say. NEVER forgetting what happened and not sweeping it under the rug we discussed pretty much everything as a whole and we've come back together.
RED FLAG:: Christmas day after I spent time with him and the kids(breakfast, presents), him his mother and the kids(watching tv, eating, talking), in between cleaning cooking etc. Kids mother came over...couple of his friends came over....I went to my family gathering to hand out presents and spend time.....come back....house cleared out (kids mother and his friends finally leave) and I was intending on coming out my clothes to showcase my christmas undergarments BUT he's too tired.
OK I addressed the issue I had (everyone else had significant time except me, or rather alone time) and went to sleep with tears in eyes. It just so happened that early in the morning he left his phone____Now I didn't plan on it at all but I figured I'd see if it was another reason why he was tired. Lo and behold he was basically BEGGING his youngest daughter's mother to come and...get this....spend time with HER. I wish someone could read this quick enough because I need sound solid advice like right now ! Should I cut him off and be done with the WHOLE THING like before because its like deja vu ??? Should I try to talk it out because MAYBE he's trying to improve communication with his child's mother?????
I just don't know
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