So maybe you're starting to see that stuff like polite and gentle are attributes that should be givens. Like Maslow's theory of needs. Once you've deduced that a guy can provide basics like food clothing and and shelter you work your way up the pyramid and see what else he's got going on.

Like for me if a guy gives a snarky answer to some of the political questions on okc, I know we do not have a match. It sounds like you have not met a lot of people for some reason. I would focus on quantity and let the quality float to the surface. Just keep it casual with the many, tho.