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Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.
How do you mentally go about being permanently celibate? I mean, I constantly think about sex/relationships etc...
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Hi, I.Am.The.End. The title on this thread caught my eye, because I've been celibate for years. I suspect, though, that I have some kind of hormonal problem, because I seldom even think about sex. It sounds like you're interested in an intimate relationship.
I think you're asking the wrong question. Instead of asking, 'How can I adjust to a lifetime of depriving myself?', see if you can figure out why you find sex so disgusting and disturbing. I agree with kindachaotic. You can find a therapist to work with this on.
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How can you ever be emotionally intimate with someone if you're never in a relationship?
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I'm not sure what you mean by 'emotionally intimate.' I have lots of people I care about deeply, but I don't have sex with them. I'm not in a relationship, though. If you want a partner or spouse, I suppose it's possible to find someone who either shares your aversion to sex or is physically incapable of performing. Narrows the field of prospects a lot, though.
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Is there a way to stop the need to masturbate too? Is it even ok to do that? I mean, it gets painful at times if I keep avoiding it. But it usually makes my sex drive higher rather than lower.
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I don't think there's anything wrong with masturbation. I've never understood why people objected to it.
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Are there any ways to actually lower your sex drive?
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I don't know.
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How do you avoid seeing other couples, or sex-related things on TV without staying in your room your whole life.
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That may not be possible.
I actually think it's very sweet when I see couples holding hands and walking together. The fact that you find it disturbing maybe indicates you'd like to be part of such a couple but you fear you never will be?
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What do you tell people when they ask you why you don't date and why no one likes you enough to ask you on a date?
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No one has ever asked me why I don't date or why people don't like me enough to date me. Sounds like your friends are rude and nosy.
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Does it get easier or harder as you get older realizing you'll never have sex? Never be touched? Never be kissed (well again anyway, I kissed someone 9 years ago)? Never be married? Never love anyone or be loved?
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Well, I can't say I've never had sex, so I can't answer the first question. As to being kissed, touched, married, and loved/loving: you can do all that stuff without having sex.
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I'm just wondering if anybody has experience with being celibate and how you cope with it.
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Well, as I said, I don't feel like I'm 'coping' so much as I'm just being myself. It sounds like you'd actually like a full intimate relationship, though. I think you should gather your courage and see if you can work through whatever is standing between you and what you want. This is just too important.
