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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
I don't do this. But I can offer ideas as to what I think might help you. But first of all, I want to say that I commend you on your honesty here about this and your recognizing that you need to change it. Do the friends you lied/lie to really like you for who you are? Hard to say if part of their image of you is false, no matter how insignificant it may seem. Likely they'd like you and still be friends with you for you but you gotta come clean with that. The rewarded real friendships will be worth it.
Find one or more of your friends that you've been closest to, one you trust the most and start with them first. Start small and begin revealing the truth about yourself. If it's a person you trust, most likely they are the ones that will be the most accepting of your weaknesses. As you learn that one or two people that still are accepting of you, I imagine your motivation and courage to be more honest with others will grow stronger. I think the key, I must emphasize is finding that one person that you're close enough to that you can tell anything to and start with them.
You can do this. I have faith in you.  *hugs*
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I've gotten this advice before. And I have trouble doing this. The problem probably goes beyond lying. To this day I don't feel I could trust anyone enough to tell them about this problem. Which is why I came here. No one knows me no one here could use any vulnerability I have against me. I've had a lot of instances in the past where I try to confide in someone and its been used against me. I really appreciate the suggestion though and if anyone comes along that I feel comfortable enough with I might try it. I'm kind of hoping talking about it a little here first might help me reach a point where I am comfortable discussing it with a close friend.
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