Okay- first, i hate emoticons, despise the concept of the intellectual age of emoticons approaching.
Next- I have almost no social skills. So forget about it, I barely get by.
So now then, this is what I do, I make things up, like this-
Congregation for competitive sexual selection evolved in humans into congregation as competitive sexual selection. Whereupon, all traits conducive to congregation (i.e. socialization enculturation) become subject to the evolutionary influence of sexual selection; re: Darwin.
To keep it short, this means, the process of socialization is competitive. The primary individuals involved with said process generally remain unconcious of the competitive unature of the process.
Next, to finish tearing up Sigmund,
Dependence is a drive with bimodal expression; the primary expression by the neonate elicits the secondary expression from the parent/caregiver.
This replaces some other ideas of other's.
Sex;
Sex is a style of reproduction. Sex is a drive with certain parts.
Reproduction, mate selection (competitive sexual selection), eros/libidinism and dependence.
Dependence as a drive, although subservient to reproductive style in a similar sense to eros, is probably more evolutionarily influential than competitive selection.
Dependence is the essence of mammalian evolution.
The primary period of infantile -juvenile dependence cannot exceed the capacity of the secondary parental response. This creates a dynamic which acts to both extend and restrict the duration of the period of primary dependence.
So- i think about a lot of other things but nobody can stand to listen. If you ask me why is that, i'm likely to not tell you the answer even if i know it, which i do.