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Originally Posted by OrangeMoira
I.Am.The.End I'm glad you're here posting and giving ideas. People who are in the worst grips of AvPD may not be able to do more than read, if that. So your input is much appreciated. Sorry about the romantic setback. That hurts so much. I'm glad you're still trying to work on practicing even though it's harder for you now. I am able to speak publicly if I'm well prepared because I feel like there are boundaries on people's expectations. Unfortunately, that has not translated to other parts of my life.
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Yeah, I wish there was a way to resolve it because I don't feel like I can move on until I do...but we're on speaking terms and I don't want to change that. Maybe if we had a mediator, but even then, no one would understand why that would affect me so much.
I've been having trouble speaking in public actually. I can do it, but my thoughts get all jumbled and I have trouble pronouncing words and I think I might even stutter a little. I have problems speaking clearly and pronouncing words as it is, so I prefer writing. I fear I seem very stupid when I try to say things out loud unless I'm really comfortable around people. But I have to speak in front of crowds spontaneously quite often, so it's a bit unnerving.
And to anyone reading that doesn't feel comfortable posting in the thread, you can PM me. And for those who aren't comfortable with that, I'll try to preemptively give advice.
Like I was saying before, scheduling things like errands where you do it at the same time in the same way every week helps. When I do laundry I have to go to a laundromat, so I go late on Friday night (there aren't many people there), go to the same corner, use the same machines, etc.
That's all I can think of right now.