Sounds like a really hard situation to be in .
My hubby was a bit weird about trying to conceive. The counting the days and planned sex really freaked him out - he likes to be spontaneous! - and he felt like I was using him just to get pregnant. Plus he's really worried about what it will be like to be a dad.
I tried to be as sensitive as I could to his feelings as kept things as stress free as possible. For him it was easier to keep the whole getting pregnant thing out of his face and quiet so he didn't have to deal with the emotional roller coaster that is trying to conceive. Now I'm 23 weeks and he's just beginning to relax about the whole pregnancy thing!

Good luck and hugs, it's stressful enough without your hubby's issues. I hope you can get through this and have a happy and healthy family. I think some extra therapy would be a good thing to achieve that.