Hello geisha75, its nice to meet you. Let me introduce myself, I am a psychologist and I can understand your problem and anxiety. You mentioned that you are an only daughter and you have no other sibling. Only children canm suffer from some psychological problems but only children are also more likely to uncover their talents and abilities and achieve more in life.

Looks like you do not suffer from any problems with addiction and the law. Just anxiety, in fact a lot of anxiety which is triggered by family members. I recommend Subliminal music and self hypnosis for your anxiety

http://soundanxietytreatment.com/

Being anxious when family is coming over is alright. Many other people are also going through the same feelings. It looks like you are not very close to your parents. Maybe because your father is a little emotionally detached perhaps. Christmas Eve is the type to let go of these feelings of emotional detachment. This is the holiday to come closer not only as a a family but at heart too. This eve do not panic just enjoy. Listen to the relaxing music mentioned above and I bet you will feel better.

Please tell me about your experience with the subliminal music and family get together.