I really really understand.. when others don't have a clue to include you, invite you, extend a small friendship it really hurts and makes you feel there is something wrong with you...which can't be true. I am tired of developing and investing in a friendship all year only to be left out, and not invited on Christmas.. long story but this new woman friend just doesn't have it in her to think of me when she knew I am alone, with some scary medical issues to deal with . I need to choose warmer people.

but I put myself out there and tried for 7 months, hoping for the best to happen,(and not force it to happen, it was an experiment in a way) now she is sending a guilt ridden email since I am not writing my ususal chatty ones to her. It is not OK to get what I call Benign Neglect, instead of real friendship.

I wish I could gather up us "odd-one" folks and have a merry blast...we deserve it. I too will continue my online contacts