I am 27 years old, I have been married for 3 1/2 years. I love my husband very much and I always thought we had a great relationship...I mean every couple has there issues, and we had ours. About a month ago, my husband and I got into a very bad fight all because I did not leave the foyer light on before I left for work, and when he got home it was dark and he had trouble seeing. We have had this conversation before, but i forget to leave the light on because when i leave for work its daylight out. Well this particular night I came home and was on the phone with his dad and my husband yanked the phone out of my hand and threw it down the hall, and persisted to scream at me that I didn't leave the light on, and I cant do anything right (clean, etc). he screamed at me for a good 30 mins then he stated that either I need to fix things or he is going to kill himself. Well then he packed a bag and walked out the door. He came back about 4 hours later and stated that he wanted a divorce. This all happened on a Friday. He then stated that he is tried of supporting me, and that he makes twice as much money as i do (even though he is the one with a huge spending problem and we have been trying to work on this...he spends approx 600-800 a week on things NOT HOUSEHOLD STUFF! Then that Saturday he ignored me all day and then when I went to work on Sunday, I got home and he has moved all this belongings to the basement. He has now said that he does not want a divorce, but im still unsure. He is still living in the basement ie sleeping, showering, all his belongings. He doesn't really talk to me, unless he wants sex...which is not happening. He has since opened up his own bank account at a separate bank than our current one and has not contributed to any bills for almost a month. I know that I need to contact a marriage counsler and try to work things out. but at the same time I feel as if im being selfish because I am 27. I am not getting any younger and I would like to start a family soon, and i feel as if i cannot bring a child into this kind of environment. I dont know what to do.