((( Shay, Slump, Nemo ))) I can relate, in that I was bullied, and sometimes worry about violating other people's boundaries because of it. Sometimes I worry too much about it. It is possible to be too hard on oneself.

It's good that you are concerned about repeating the cycle. This shows that you don't want to emulate your abusers. Own that! You're all resisting the negative effects of things that were done to you, and are aware of it. Surely there are ways to handle it effectively?

You are better than your abusers. They had control over you in the past, but this does not have to be your perpetual future. Please don't ever forget that. Also, please remember that having a stressful time and feeling angry happens to everyone - it does not mean you are going to become abusive.

I wish you all luck in forging your own paths.