I know how helpless & scary it is to have a child who is ill. My first was 2 1/2 mos. premature (due to my drinking & smoking while pregnant--had untreated bipolar--talk about guilt). Your husband sounds like he is not handling all the pressures on him. Do at least try to get help for yourself so you can be the strong one for your children. Medication & therapy did help me tremendously, as others have mentioned. Take good care.--Suzy