Obviously, if you're so deficient (you're not, it's just your outlook) then he doesn't love you for those characteristics? So why does he love you? Got you there! But he does so you must have attributes he really enjoys. I often ask my husband for his view of me and then just accept it, whether I can see it in myself or not. I trust my husband's judgment so if he says I'm X, Y, and Z then I am to other people who like/love me and the only problem is looking for those features in myself or waiting until they manifest in some way such that I can see them. Getting "the view" is like getting a present! We are what our friends see, not the people who don't care for us because they have other agendas, not related to us; those who truly care for us want us to know how wonderful we are for our own sakes. They want our growth and happiness.