hai there !
well from reading your story this sounds like a
messy situation .
i wouldn't say its your fault either at all .
we all make little mistakes like that . ( leaving something on , forgetting to shut the door etc. )
I agree with you i don't think starting a family would be the best with him acting like this towards you .
I would sit him down no matter what is going on and
say
" hunny (what ever you call your lover ) -
we need to talk , I know we have our ups and downs
but you are the man i love with my whole heart .
I want to be on the same wave length as you and make you happy .
I want to make things better between us , how can i do this ?"

I took a lot of communication classes and I statements come off in a more approachable way even if its him , it helps .
you don't want to put all the energy on his actions.
start there and see what happens .
just be very up front and
if he cant see that you are trying to
make things better then I dont know.. professional help maybe ?
good luck!