Thank you Peaches for this thread and to Yellowted for your excellent reply. I don't have any insights since I'm struggling myself but I have a question. I know we are supposed to comfort ourselves but sometimes the pain is so bad (just like you experienced Peaches that day in session with T), I don't understand why the T can't help us by holding us close and giving the comfort we desperately need. I feel tremendous pain sometimes in session and need/want to be held so bad but T won't do it. Maybe it's not the right thing to do intellectually but sometimes don't we all need to see there are exceptions to the "rules"? Getting a hug could be so healing don't you think? Or, am I just dreaming?

Lots of HUGS to you Peaches.