I'd like him to own up to his negative contribution to my issues but he's too oblivious to see that. ]

people like him never own up to their wrong doings, they believe they are better than that. little do they know it only makes them lonely old people as those who should be helping them in their old age want nothing to do with them because of it!

My dad also knows how to talk his way out of things and flip the script. But he also knows that I see through his b.s. I sometimes think he's intimidated by me because I'm the only one who can challenge him on his intellect. Everyone else follows like sheep.

a little power in this situation makes a big difference as you can treat him with the contempt he deserves and not feel guilty about it.

Maybe I will be able to "be the bigger person" but I just want to be allowed to feel what I'm feeling without it taking too much control of my life. It's like "screw him for messing things up for me but at the end of the day, I have to clean it up. Not my mess but someone has to clean it and he made it clear that it isn't him."