your man sounds out of control !
I agre with the post above me -
this is not a parenting/ child relationship
you both are adults and don't "deserve" any "punishment "
however you do deserve respect.
the only reason i see it - is
you are only lieing because he is so controlling .
you can not be open with him and honest for if you do he will want you to change or wont approve and if he does not approve you get "punished"
but then if you lie and he finds out the same thing will happen punishment "
to me it looks like a lose , lose situation .
I know you love this man of yours but i would try some
either individual counseling or relationship counseling .
I am 19 and one of my best friends who is 17
is dating a guy who is 18- HE wont let her hang out with her best friends (even me )
when she does and he finds out he yells at her and says " I CAN'T TRUST YOU ANY MORE " BLAH BLAH blah some more babble crap .
and then she loses all her close friends.
i have always told her even though she doesnt respond to my text msgs or calls because he checks her phone
i always say
" look i know you love this guy , and i am not going to tell you to dump him but
i want you to at least put your love for him on pause and think about the love for you .
what's best for (you)
maybe what is best for him is unhealthy for you .
i hate seeing you in this position , i know you are strong but please dont end up being one of those girls who ends up in a relationship where they should be loving and smiling more then being sad. "

i say the same to you .
it breaks my heart losing her.
i live by this
- i love my man but i love my self more. -
that may sound selfish but what your man is doing is selfish
-not okay - and there is nothing wrong with thinking about whats best for you
good luck <3 chika