I do agree with the other members that your mother is most likely hurting and not helping you or the situation. Is it possible to limit contact with her? It has been really helpful for me to stay as far away as possible from my immediate family because they are unable to be caring and supportive in a real, genuine way. They also use my Dx to make themselves feel better about their own bad behavior.

I think because we can be our own harshest critics, would not tell others about Dx. I am starting to think it is more of a label than anything else. It seems to be an umbrella term for coping mechanisms. Nothing more. It doesn't have to be a "bad" thing. WE are not bad.

As we get to know people and settle in, life happens, and we do the best we can. Others will learn that and either be supportive. Or not.