Hi SJ.
Please don't take offense,I will try to
help.The "Pleasing Behavior" will reduce
your stature to yourself,will encourage
self-loathing,will leave you with no self-
respect,will destroy you. What it is,is,the
left-over compulsion to get 'love' and
'approval' at any cost, that you did NOT
get when you were a child.So,in effect,
you make other people into your parents,
and the only way you knew to get ANY
affection was TO PLEASE THEM!
And this
is what you are doing to yourself now;
you are BETRAYING YOURSELF so others
will like you--instead,they will look down
on you. You talk of negative and positive,
don't you know real friends are usually,
and mostly, POSITIVE?
THEY should feel
fortunate to have YOU! Which,I bet, you
never ever consider.
You need to think
more about YOU . . .YOU COME FIRST!
Everybody else comes second.You should
NOT ACCEPT poor behavior from others,
put this quote on your kitchen wall:
"You get the behavior from people that
you are willing to put up with without
protest--YOUR SILENCE IS CONSENT"
There is much more
you need to know,but I don't have time
right now,message me if you want more
info.
Deepest Respect,
BLUEDOVE