Could you try explaining to your therapist that if she helps you to control your OCPD you may be able to accomplish more, which will help you feel more empowered and maybe decrease the depression? I know my depression is worse when I feel stymied by a situation I don't know how to fix; it's even worse if I feel like I caused the problem.

It's very thoughtful to worry about your therapist's feelings, but respectfully asking to see another practitioner and explaining your concerns is not wrong in any way. It may help her to hear that feedback. Or it may help your communication with her if you two talk it out and decide to keep working together. You might even tell her that you are afraid of hurting her feelings; I think that is good information for you to explore in a session, if you are up for it. Ultimately, it is not your job to protect your therapist! She is there to help you! You deserve to get effective help from someone you connect with; sometimes people just don't work together well. Happens all the time in therapy, really!

Would you be able to give your professors a basic understanding of OCPD so that they can be more helpful in their feedback? If you let them know what specific challenges you face (and maybe remind them that you are actively working to treat your disorder through therapy), they might be more positive.

I'm guessing that your OCPD kicks up even more when you have to face responses from professors that you can't predict--maybe if you had reason to assume that they will be understanding, it would ease up a bit? I can understand not wanting them to know, though.

By the way, 3 courses at a time is a lot. I graduated on time and only took 4 courses most semesters. It sounds like you expect a lot from yourself! I have a friend who took over ten years to get her degree. She has a great job now. I can understand wanting to get done faster, but I hope you're also proud of what you've accomplished with a learning disorder and a PD to deal with.