Nomad17 - I can relate to the difficulty of waiting for a reply from t.

I found that there can be many reasons for the delay. Once I was in horrible pain about her failure to reply for a few days. I forwarded the email she hadn't replied to and told her I was doing very badly. Come to find out she had answered but did not hit send so she thought I recieved her reply days earlier.

I email on an as needed basis. I keep them as short as possible to respect her time. We've also worked out a system in which I write at the end that I'm not anticipating a reply. Some times she replies anyway but it takes the pressure off both of us when I know I can make it without a reply. If I leave that no reply thing off she replies about 80% to those. Her replies are always short - a sentence or two but I can tell she read what I wrote. I've lerned her patterns too. Some days she only checks email once - early. If I haven't written before that I know it will be at least 24 hours for a reply.

I also have her personal cell number for calls and texts. I think I called 3-4 times in 2012. We only text for scheduling mainly or a did you get home okay on thes snowy roads.

Your reaction and distroying of her contact information would probably be a good thing to talk about with your t. As far as boundaries, the t is usually the one that sets them. I add to them out of respect.

How are you feeling now?