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My t is great. I love her. I've seen her on and off for two years and started seeing her again one month ago. We have sessions once a week. She gave me her phone number (personal cell phone number) and email address and told me to text, call, or email whenever I needed. Last week I called her in a crisis situation. Lets just say I was a danger to myself. I immediately felt guilty for calling her especially because it was 9 at night. She didn't answer, which I had mixed feelings about, but then I emailed her the next day and she called me as soon as she saw it. I've emailed her about once a week when I'm especially unstable, need to vent about a bad day, or need to tell her about urges/something I've done, and she either calls me or emails me back saying we'll talk about it next session. I HATE bugging her and it makes me feel so guilty and I never feel like my problems are big enough to call or email about. I feel like she thinks I'm annoying and needy. I don't know when things are bad enough to where she would've liked me to call. She said whenever, and I know she means it but she's the only one I have to talk to so I feel like I ask too much of her.
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Nomad, this is something you need to settle with your T. A lot of people on this site have the same difficulties as you about contacting your T, including me. I think you should tell your T exactly what you have written here, and I suspect she will help ease your guilt and maybe give you some guidelines.
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Today, after emailing her last night and no call or reply, I deleted her number from my phone, deleted all of our emails and threw out my copy of her contact info she gave me (quite ceremoniously actually, I ripped it up and flushed it down the toilet, then laid on the floor and cried.) I feel so bad for being so needy but now I don't know what to do in a crisis. I'm stressed out and anxious about the whole thing. I think about it ALL THE TIME.
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Nomad This is a common emotion (anger), also, when your T fails to respond to your email/phone call/text. You are definitely NOT alone, Nomad. I hope you can talk to your T about this also. It is something that your therapist would want to know in order to help you.
Do you and your t have contact between sessions?
Under what circumstances would you contact your t?
What kind of boundaries should I set with my t?
Everybody's therapist is different and has different boundaries. Every patient is different and needs individualized boundaries at times. I hope you ask your therapist these questions
Thank all of you for being part of this community, I already feel like I belong.
I am so glad you are here, Nomad. Post here as often as you need, there a lot of friendly people who will help you. Keep us posted on how it goes with your therapist. We are here for you. I am here for you