I agree with the other members in that it would be a really good idea for you to speak with a T to try to figure out why exactly you are staying in this type of relationship. He may not understand or realize his behavior and actions are completely off the charts wrong. He may never realize it. So the best you can do is enlighten yourself. You cannot change him, but you can certainly put the effort into you and work on understanding yourself. I hope you will consider it.