I think you are putting too much of yourself in the online world. One's brain literally cannot tell the difference between whether you are actually experiencing or imagining thoughts and feelings. Neither you nor your girlfriend sound very rooted and self-mature; it's like you are playing a larger online game; "Second Life" or "The Sims" with your own rules.

Relationships have to be based in the "real" world, not online. Everything online has to be in your head because that's the only place the relationship exists. And in your head you can imagine/feel love, hate, all the emotions but they are not based on any actual real world actions.

You travelled to see her in person and met her family and did real things with her. If you want to be with her in fact, you have to get a Visa for that country and go there and try to be with her. However, it does not sound to me like that would work with her (or your) current level of maturity? As you say, how can she profess love for you one moment and be talking to some other person the next day; the only way that makes sense is there's no anchor in reality, it's all whatever she is thinking/feeling/making up in her head and the two of you can't calibrate with each other because you cannot ever get into each other's heads; you can't "do" anything permanent in Cyberspace.

Real relationships are actions; not words, thoughts, online games. I rub my husband's damaged foot every night because he's in pain and my massaging it is the only thing that makes the pain go away (micro nerves severed when he was 16 and stepped on a Coke bottle; he almost didn't walk again and now they fire randomly). I don't just know what my husband likes, I do something about it; I buy foods he likes and cook them for him for dinner, I pave the way for enjoyable vacations to destinations he's interested in (and he does the same for me). I share information about myself with him, confer with him in real time so what we do, we do "together".

You say you want to wait until she feels ready to "come to you" but then you choose to damage your own health and well-being by concentrating on her actions instead of working in your own life to eat well and become healthier in spirit, mind, and get your own life going the way you would like. You have to be together to have a relationship with a person and I do not see you planning or working to be together in fact but just talking about how "amazing" things on in the fantasy world of Cyberspace.