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Originally Posted by Claritytoo
We have a part of us who believes they are worthless. They were asked to explain why they believe they are worthless. They said they don't know but still feel nothing else but worthlessness. How is it possible for one of us to believe they are worthless and others know they are valued. I don't see a way for this alter to experience feelings of value. It seems that the feeling of worthlessness is all they have. This feeling causes him/her to want to hurt him/her self. Which is us. He/she This alter doesn't seem to want to hurt us just him/her self that believes they are worthless. I don't know where to go with this.
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Claritytoo...I had many alters that were like this... not just with the feeling of worthlessness...there was anger, happiness, depressed, ashamed, and even sexualized alters.. my therapist explained to me that DID type alters have their own way of being, their own jobs, purposes and reasons for being. what that means is that each alter has their own feelings, their own ways in which they perceive their self and the world around them, and they have their own way in which they present their self. Here where I live and work these kinds of alters are called "categorical". the DSM calls this type of alter "distinct"
for some people with DID type alters they are able to teach their alters things like safety, and that theres no need for the behaviors like self injury, and suicide that they were created for, hold and embody.
for others there is no way to get through to these type of alters.
for example with me there was not getting through to them, there was no way to communicate with them, there was no way to teach them, that their job, purpose and reason for being was no longer appropriate and no longer needed.
the only thing my therapist and I could do when it came to my alters not being safe with me / the other alters was by my entering the mental health unit and remaining there until it was safe for all of us again.
for those that are able to be co conscious and can communicate with their alters to help them understand they are not worthless and do not need to act out in unsafe ways, do so in many different ways. this is because there is no one way. what works for one doesnt always work for another...
some ways that those I know have used successfully is...Journaling, talking inside, asking insider questions on how to help them,. for a rare few hypnosis worked, emdr, CBT, and other therapy techniques have also worked for things like this..
only you and your treatment providers know how to best approach this situation and only you and your treatment providers can say what will and what wont work for you.
my suggestion if this continues to be an issue for you contact your treatment providers ie your medical doctor, your therapist or other mental health provider. they will be able to help you and all those with in to be safe and remain safe with your self and others inside.